Read The Orchid and the Dandelion Why Some Children Struggle and How All Can Thrive Audible Audio Edition W Thomas Boyce Fred Sanders Random House Audio Books

Product details Audible Audiobook Listening Length 10 hours and 23 minutes Program Type Audiobook Version Unabridged Publisher Random House Audio Audible.com Release Date January 29, 2019 Language English, English ASIN B07KX4WRZP

The Orchid and the Dandelion Why Some Children Struggle and How All Can Thrive Audible Audio Edition W Thomas Boyce Fred Sanders Random House Audio Books Reviews

• Brilliant research for parents, teachers, doctors and caregivers but it paints a dire future for orchid child raised in an adverse environments with no hope, and even a rather convincing argument that the inevitable solution is suicide. Dr. Boyce does a great job explaining why, and to some degree how, we should make sure that orchid children are raised in healthy, supportive environments. But he seems tone deaf to the implications of his book, and the example of his beloved sister, for adult orchids raised in adverse environments. For them hope is often the only thin thread holding them to life and his book takes away hope for them. IMHO the 7.5%-10% of orchids from adverse childhoods should not read this book.
• Dr. Boyce invites us to journey with him through 30 plus years of enlightening research into early childhood development as it relates to epidemiology, stress, environment and emotional health. Unpacking the complexities of how children fare through trauma, challenges, environment and family of origin issues, W. Thomas Boyce leads the reader through a series of narratives both professional and personal along with fascinating research he and teams of pediatric researchers uncover about young children. Surprisingly the results were not entirely what as they had expected. From biological, mental, social, psychological and environmental findings collected from hundreds of children, two categories of children began to emerge making sense of their collected data the orchid more sensitive child and the hardy dandelion child. To that end, much wisdom unfolds for all of us as to what differentiates the orchid child from the dandelion child regardless of his or her demographic and other variables. Most importantly Dr. Boyce along with his colleagues and research teams observed over and over again how a nurturing environment impacts the development for the "orchid-esque" child in terms of his or her ability to thrive. In a loving and understanding environment these children not only thrive but most often soar! With great hope given for all the world's children intertwined with helpful narratives, fascinating insights, poetry and professional expertise this book offers parents, those who work closely with children or parents and even those of us who appreciate insights into our own family of origin not to mention our own child within... oceans of wisdom!
• I am an Orchid child who grew up under adverse, stressful circumstances. My youth was characterized by extreme shyness, impulsiveness, severe nail biting, seemingly perpetual knee bouncing, anxiety and many fears. I survived and have mostly conquered this background, through strong academics, athletics and music. This book gave me great insight into my own development. I have, without reservation recommended it to my family and friends, some of them Orchid like and some Dandelions. I think it is mandatory reading for anyone who is thinking about or raising a child, if only to teach them to recognize the sensitivities of their children, and to try some of the suggestions Tom makes to structure your family life around your Orchids. It might help the dandelions understand why the lives of family members, and friends may have failed.
  
  Gratefully,
  Richard Eastman M.D.
  Former Director, Division of Diabetes, Endocrinology, and Metabolic Diseases
  National Institute of Diabetes, Digestive Diseases (NIDDK)
  National Institutes of Health.
• I read this remarkable book as a physician, as a parent of adopted children and as a Christian deeply interested in the human condition. At all levels I was enriched. Dr Boyce not only brings clarity as he explains a whole new area of understanding in the biology and psychology of human development, he also gives us an enthralling exciting view of the scientific method at work and those who dedicate their lives to its pursuit. As there is no one who does not have an interest in the children around them or the child they were, there is no none who would not find this book edifying
• I was fascinated to read this book as I live with my two granddaughters and I want to help them get the best out of life. One is a typical dandelion while the other is a typical orchid. Her actual name is 'Orchid' although it is the Japanese word for orchid as she is Japanese. I had already realized that she is a Highly Sensitive Person and what I read in Dr Boyce's book confirmed it. Reading this book, I felt a bit depressed when I considered her journey being buffeted by the rough waves of life. In that respect this book was not such a feel-good book reassuring me that everything will be all right. It was more of a cold hard look at everything and impressed upon me the need to give all children lots of love and care to foster their self-confidence and help them make it through school, etc. But on the whole, I give Dr Boyce's book a high rating and I am very glad I read it. I got a lot out of it.
• What a great resource for parents looking to help their kids thrive.
• Super negative perspective on "Orchid" children. Dr. Elaine N. Aron talks about the same thing in her book, The Highly Sensitive Child in a much more positive light. Don't waste your time with Orchids and Dandelions.
• If you are a parent, or a professional dealing with children, or love children and families this is the one book you should read this year. Based on existing research and the author's careful new research.